What is Marriage ?

Quote from a website I googled up today on "What is Marriage " :
"Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: finding the right person and being the right person" quote. Do we really know the actual definition of a successful marriage?

Well..finding the right person, I think fits the category of a right husband. Being the right person? I think we are both never the right person. Do I really know the actual defination of a successful marriage? No. . . cos I do not feel at any point at all "successful".

In the website it also says :
"Marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness"
Can I say there is none of the above in this house which I'm staying in?

The article ended with :
A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other
Yes, he is constantly very commited to call me every hour to bug me to go home. . . is that what you call constant commitment and concern? Concern that by staying out late with his car, I may potentialy run into car burglary theft's and get his car stolen? It doesn't matter if I get robbed or raped or hurt. . . as long as the car is not injured then it is ok.

Wedding Bells

It has been ages since I last posted anything on this blog, until to the extend that I have actually forgotten my own username & password to access this blog.

Well, I somehow got married this year in January, and somehow can't help but to wonder. . . why?

Month of April held a lot of milestones in our life of being together. Events which happened in April :

It’s exactly 1 year ago when we broke the news to my parents that we wanted to get married. . .

About 1 year few weeks ago when he proposed to get married.

About 5 years since we met.

We got our own place to stay after marriage, and after 4 months of being married I have to say . . .

1. I’m exhausted of having to do house chores. Especially when you have married a clown who doesn’t lift a finger to help at all.

2. I’m feeling lifeless – After putting all my energy into work & the hse, and fact that I don’t have a car anymore now, I’ve stopped hanging out with my friends.

3. I’m wondering if I made the right choice. Partly is also because of the 1^st ‘exhaustion’ part + loads of other ‘things’ which he does at home which annoys me.

I do not see any joy in marriage, and this worries me. Is it norm